Our Story

It was June 2004 and my friends were begging me to go to a local show at the New Earth coffee house. I was a little hesitant for some reason but decided to go. I figured it would be like every other hardcore show, but knew I would have fun hanging out with friends.


I was sitting on the edge of the stage in between bands playing with my friend when she told me some guy was totally checking me out. I of course looked over and immediately was completely flattered. There he was, looking at me and I didn't really know what to say.  A few minutes later the next band took the stage and sure enough he was the singer of the band.


The show was over and of course I wanted to say something to him, but couldn't really work up the nerve. I decided to head back to the room where merch was being sold. I walked past his table and suddenly he grabbed my hand. The first thing he said was " I think I'm in love"  Now I know what your thinking,  wow that's quite the pick up line, but for some reason I was just smitten over it.  


This is a picture we took together that night! The first night we met. A 17 year old boy from North Dakota who was dropping every line to get my attention.

7 months later we decided to give it a try. We knew the distance would be hard, but we also knew we wanted to be a part of each other's lives. It was never easy. In fact, it got quite difficult at times. Through it all I never once thought my life would be the same without him and I was willing to do whatever I could. December 2005 I came to visit. It was my birthday that week and Shane decided to take me out. We went to our favorite restaurant and headed back to his house. As we entered the only thing lighting the room was the Christmas tree. He told me he had made me a birthday cake and that he had something for me. It was a book he made. I never quite thought he had it in him to make something like this, but it was perfect. I tried holding in my tears the entire time. At the end of the book was a safety pin. I of course asked him what it was for and he told me to pop the balloons. Inside was the most perfect ring. It wasn't huge or have a ton of diamonds, it was just me. Simple and lovely. He asked me to marry him and never did I think throughout that whole night, that it was THE night.

Five years later, and I can't imagine my life with anyone else. He is the most amazing thing that has ever happened to me. He has given me the world. He is the most humble, loving man I have ever known. I'm so thankful that God placed him in my life. To think that if I wouldn't have gone to that show that night. And most importantly, he is such an amazing Daddy. Arbor is so lucky to have a Daddy that stays home with her 3 days out of the work week for me. He changes diapers,  plays guitar and sings for her, and loves her unconditionally.  

I love you Shane Ochsner! More and more each day!